Really pissed off at the moment & not sure what to do about it. My mom has this longtime friend/neighbor who the rest of the family has never really liked. My never-talks-shit-about-anybody dad used to refer to this woman as "The Village Voice" for being the neighborhood gossip and always needing to know/get into other peoples' business. I've pretty much always disliked her for being nosy and tattling on me to my mom because one of her kids was in detention with me during high school. Oh and making snide comments to my mom during that time because I'd died my hair purple.
In the time since my dad died, she's done some nice things for my mom like flower arrangements and taking her out to lunch on her birthday and the 1 year anniversary of his death. But she's also made a lot of inappropriate and frankly, mean underhanded comments:
+ When my dad's obituary ran in the newspaper, she called my mom up to tell her that she'd seen it and "Gosh it was rather long."
+ At the reception after his service (where we included the obit in the program and I spoke for the family), she came up and during some general conversation about how to handle the service, made the same comment again about the obit. Everybody else has said how impressed they were with both my writing (I wrote the obit) and my eulogy (which I also wrote). She started to imply that she knew better than my mom about obituaries, like my mom is an idiot who blew too much money on the obit. My oldest (since childhood) friend was standing there, and as politely as I could, my response was "Yes, it's a shame how much money papers overcharge for this sort of thing." She tried to make another snide comment along those lines and as politely as I could I told her "You know, that's really not an appropriate thing to say."
Lately she's been dropping these comments to my mother about seeing my car by the house during the week and when I answered the phone at lunch time one time, she's been on this "what's the Gov doing over at your house?" My mom actually asked me to not be at the house when they went out for the birthday lunch in order to avoid these questions. Which I did because I'd been planning a day trip for that week.
Yesterday they were on the phone and afterwards my mom was like "Well, we'd better clear out the junk in the garage." Not because it's years of accumulated crap and we've nagged her about it. No, apparently Helen Lovejoy has taken it upon herself to drive by the house during the week and "just happened to notice" my car parked out front. And asked about it?! When I heard this, I about blew up - Who the fuck does this woman think she is? I'm sure she's dying to find out that I've lost my job and am staying with my mom, so she can gossip about it. And she's probably pissed that I politely told her off at the service.
I told my mom that we need to clean the garage out anyways, but that this woman's behavior is bullshit. If I had to guess, the junior high antics point towards somebody who's insecure and feels like she has to "prove" her superiority. Her husband's a retired state civil engineer and none of her kids (one of whom is estranged from her) have made it past high school. It sounds fucked up, but my honest reaction is that seeing as how my dad's obit and service pointed out all of his accomplishments and popularity in the community, she's jealous of my mom. Actually when I told my mom that, she mentioned that her doctor (they go to the same doctor) said the same thing to her awhile ago: "She's jealous of you."
If there's time this week to finally pitch all of the accumulated shit out of the garage, I'm fine with doing that. But seriously - fuck this woman and her Gladys Kravitz/Helen Lovejoy antics. I don't even give a fuck what she thinks of me. She's never liked me because I'm supposedly a weirdo with purple hair who gets in trouble at school (hey I'm a weirdo with purple hair who got better grades than her kids and went on university). But seriously FUCK HER for trying to act that way towards my mother. My mom has her faults, but she's a genuinely kind person who's a bit of an introvert and not always socially confident. Oh and FUCK HER for pulling this bullshit on somebody who's in grief after losing her partner of 50+ years. I'm really tempted to go over there and ring the doorbell and be like "I understand you've been asking around about my personal business," but that would totally mortify my mom.
I'm trying really really hard to take the high road, because obviously this woman is full of shit and just jealous of my mom. But I also feel like maybe she needs to be called out on that behavior so she knocks it off. But at the moment ,all I feel like doing is kicking her ass for trying to embarass my mom.
Emily Reply:
October 13th, 2010 at 8:54 am
@Jen, Although I’m not a single mom, I do work full time outside the home and my husband has a very demanding job and is also in school part time. I’ve definitely found that making myself organized about household chores keeps me on top of things better. I haven’t checked out the link yet, so I don’t know the level of cleaning every day that you mentioned, but I’m pretty darn sure that working moms like us will not be able to reach the same level as moms who are home more. It’s just not possible, but that’s ok. What I find works for me is that I try to do at least one household chore each night after the kids are in bed rather than trying to fit it all in on the weekends when I am home all day. It only takes a little time each evening, and it frees up my weekends a bit so I can spend more time with my family. I’m not talking big huge chores, but little do-able ones, like clean the 1/2 bath (Monday nights), clean the kitchen sink (Tuesday nights), do kids laundry, etc. I do take one evening where I do nothing extra on top of the daily things that need done (dishes, pack lunches, etc).
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Really pissed off at the moment & not sure what to do about it. My mom has this longtime friend/neighbor who the rest of the family has never really liked. My never-talks-shit-about-anybody dad used to refer to this woman as "The Village Voice" for being the neighborhood gossip and always needing to know/get into other peoples' business. I've pretty much always disliked her for being nosy and tattling on me to my mom because one of her kids was in detention with me during high school. Oh and making snide comments to my mom during that time because I'd died my hair purple.
In the time since my dad died, she's done some nice things for my mom like flower arrangements and taking her out to lunch on her birthday and the 1 year anniversary of his death. But she's also made a lot of inappropriate and frankly, mean underhanded comments:
+ When my dad's obituary ran in the newspaper, she called my mom up to tell her that she'd seen it and "Gosh it was rather long."
+ At the reception after his service (where we included the obit in the program and I spoke for the family), she came up and during some general conversation about how to handle the service, made the same comment again about the obit. Everybody else has said how impressed they were with both my writing (I wrote the obit) and my eulogy (which I also wrote). She started to imply that she knew better than my mom about obituaries, like my mom is an idiot who blew too much money on the obit. My oldest (since childhood) friend was standing there, and as politely as I could, my response was "Yes, it's a shame how much money papers overcharge for this sort of thing." She tried to make another snide comment along those lines and as politely as I could I told her "You know, that's really not an appropriate thing to say."
Lately she's been dropping these comments to my mother about seeing my car by the house during the week and when I answered the phone at lunch time one time, she's been on this "what's the Gov doing over at your house?" My mom actually asked me to not be at the house when they went out for the birthday lunch in order to avoid these questions. Which I did because I'd been planning a day trip for that week.
Yesterday they were on the phone and afterwards my mom was like "Well, we'd better clear out the junk in the garage." Not because it's years of accumulated crap and we've nagged her about it. No, apparently Helen Lovejoy has taken it upon herself to drive by the house during the week and "just happened to notice" my car parked out front. And asked about it?! When I heard this, I about blew up - Who the fuck does this woman think she is? I'm sure she's dying to find out that I've lost my job and am staying with my mom, so she can gossip about it. And she's probably pissed that I politely told her off at the service.
I told my mom that we need to clean the garage out anyways, but that this woman's behavior is bullshit. If I had to guess, the junior high antics point towards somebody who's insecure and feels like she has to "prove" her superiority. Her husband's a retired state civil engineer and none of her kids (one of whom is estranged from her) have made it past high school. It sounds fucked up, but my honest reaction is that seeing as how my dad's obit and service pointed out all of his accomplishments and popularity in the community, she's jealous of my mom. Actually when I told my mom that, she mentioned that her doctor (they go to the same doctor) said the same thing to her awhile ago: "She's jealous of you."
If there's time this week to finally pitch all of the accumulated shit out of the garage, I'm fine with doing that. But seriously - fuck this woman and her Gladys Kravitz/Helen Lovejoy antics. I don't even give a fuck what she thinks of me. She's never liked me because I'm supposedly a weirdo with purple hair who gets in trouble at school (hey I'm a weirdo with purple hair who got better grades than her kids and went on university). But seriously FUCK HER for trying to act that way towards my mother. My mom has her faults, but she's a genuinely kind person who's a bit of an introvert and not always socially confident. Oh and FUCK HER for pulling this bullshit on somebody who's in grief after losing her partner of 50+ years. I'm really tempted to go over there and ring the doorbell and be like "I understand you've been asking around about my personal business," but that would totally mortify my mom.
I'm trying really really hard to take the high road, because obviously this woman is full of shit and just jealous of my mom. But I also feel like maybe she needs to be called out on that behavior so she knocks it off. But at the moment ,all I feel like doing is kicking her ass for trying to embarass my mom.
Emily Reply:
October 13th, 2010 at 8:54 am
@Jen, Although I’m not a single mom, I do work full time outside the home and my husband has a very demanding job and is also in school part time. I’ve definitely found that making myself organized about household chores keeps me on top of things better. I haven’t checked out the link yet, so I don’t know the level of cleaning every day that you mentioned, but I’m pretty darn sure that working moms like us will not be able to reach the same level as moms who are home more. It’s just not possible, but that’s ok. What I find works for me is that I try to do at least one household chore each night after the kids are in bed rather than trying to fit it all in on the weekends when I am home all day. It only takes a little time each evening, and it frees up my weekends a bit so I can spend more time with my family. I’m not talking big huge chores, but little do-able ones, like clean the 1/2 bath (Monday nights), clean the kitchen sink (Tuesday nights), do kids laundry, etc. I do take one evening where I do nothing extra on top of the daily things that need done (dishes, pack lunches, etc).
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Really pissed off at the moment & not sure what to do about it. My mom has this longtime friend/neighbor who the rest of the family has never really liked. My never-talks-shit-about-anybody dad used to refer to this woman as "The Village Voice" for being the neighborhood gossip and always needing to know/get into other peoples' business. I've pretty much always disliked her for being nosy and tattling on me to my mom because one of her kids was in detention with me during high school. Oh and making snide comments to my mom during that time because I'd died my hair purple.
In the time since my dad died, she's done some nice things for my mom like flower arrangements and taking her out to lunch on her birthday and the 1 year anniversary of his death. But she's also made a lot of inappropriate and frankly, mean underhanded comments:
+ When my dad's obituary ran in the newspaper, she called my mom up to tell her that she'd seen it and "Gosh it was rather long."
+ At the reception after his service (where we included the obit in the program and I spoke for the family), she came up and during some general conversation about how to handle the service, made the same comment again about the obit. Everybody else has said how impressed they were with both my writing (I wrote the obit) and my eulogy (which I also wrote). She started to imply that she knew better than my mom about obituaries, like my mom is an idiot who blew too much money on the obit. My oldest (since childhood) friend was standing there, and as politely as I could, my response was "Yes, it's a shame how much money papers overcharge for this sort of thing." She tried to make another snide comment along those lines and as politely as I could I told her "You know, that's really not an appropriate thing to say."
Lately she's been dropping these comments to my mother about seeing my car by the house during the week and when I answered the phone at lunch time one time, she's been on this "what's the Gov doing over at your house?" My mom actually asked me to not be at the house when they went out for the birthday lunch in order to avoid these questions. Which I did because I'd been planning a day trip for that week.
Yesterday they were on the phone and afterwards my mom was like "Well, we'd better clear out the junk in the garage." Not because it's years of accumulated crap and we've nagged her about it. No, apparently Helen Lovejoy has taken it upon herself to drive by the house during the week and "just happened to notice" my car parked out front. And asked about it?! When I heard this, I about blew up - Who the fuck does this woman think she is? I'm sure she's dying to find out that I've lost my job and am staying with my mom, so she can gossip about it. And she's probably pissed that I politely told her off at the service.
I told my mom that we need to clean the garage out anyways, but that this woman's behavior is bullshit. If I had to guess, the junior high antics point towards somebody who's insecure and feels like she has to "prove" her superiority. Her husband's a retired state civil engineer and none of her kids (one of whom is estranged from her) have made it past high school. It sounds fucked up, but my honest reaction is that seeing as how my dad's obit and service pointed out all of his accomplishments and popularity in the community, she's jealous of my mom. Actually when I told my mom that, she mentioned that her doctor (they go to the same doctor) said the same thing to her awhile ago: "She's jealous of you."
If there's time this week to finally pitch all of the accumulated shit out of the garage, I'm fine with doing that. But seriously - fuck this woman and her Gladys Kravitz/Helen Lovejoy antics. I don't even give a fuck what she thinks of me. She's never liked me because I'm supposedly a weirdo with purple hair who gets in trouble at school (hey I'm a weirdo with purple hair who got better grades than her kids and went on university). But seriously FUCK HER for trying to act that way towards my mother. My mom has her faults, but she's a genuinely kind person who's a bit of an introvert and not always socially confident. Oh and FUCK HER for pulling this bullshit on somebody who's in grief after losing her partner of 50+ years. I'm really tempted to go over there and ring the doorbell and be like "I understand you've been asking around about my personal business," but that would totally mortify my mom.
I'm trying really really hard to take the high road, because obviously this woman is full of shit and just jealous of my mom. But I also feel like maybe she needs to be called out on that behavior so she knocks it off. But at the moment ,all I feel like doing is kicking her ass for trying to embarass my mom.
Emily Reply:
October 13th, 2010 at 8:54 am
@Jen, Although I’m not a single mom, I do work full time outside the home and my husband has a very demanding job and is also in school part time. I’ve definitely found that making myself organized about household chores keeps me on top of things better. I haven’t checked out the link yet, so I don’t know the level of cleaning every day that you mentioned, but I’m pretty darn sure that working moms like us will not be able to reach the same level as moms who are home more. It’s just not possible, but that’s ok. What I find works for me is that I try to do at least one household chore each night after the kids are in bed rather than trying to fit it all in on the weekends when I am home all day. It only takes a little time each evening, and it frees up my weekends a bit so I can spend more time with my family. I’m not talking big huge chores, but little do-able ones, like clean the 1/2 bath (Monday nights), clean the kitchen sink (Tuesday nights), do kids laundry, etc. I do take one evening where I do nothing extra on top of the daily things that need done (dishes, pack lunches, etc).
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Starting a business can be rewarding and also a lot of hard work. If you find something you love to do it makes it so much easier. If you love making jewelry and love getting together with friends you can start a Jewelry Making Party business.
A jewelry making party is where a bunch of friends get together to make jewelry. You will bring all the supplies and teach everyone how to do it. They then pay you for the supplies they used.
This article will explain what you need for your business, how to run it and how to get customers. Business laws vary from location to location. You will need to get a business license and find out how to handle sales tax where you live. I won't discuss these things specifically, there are a lot of resource available online.
What you need. You will need jewelry making supplies. You don't have to do everything. Start small. Bracelets are a great place to start. Everyone likes making bracelets and the supplies are basic and they are easy to learn how to do. You will need clasps, stringing material (wire), beads, crimp beads, crimper (or needle nose pliers) and wire cutters. In the future you may decide to do parties with more complex jewelry. When you get to this point you can offer beginner and advanced classes.
The supplies you will need for your business are basic no matter what type of jewelry you choose to do. You will need craft boxes to separate your beads. Providing each guest with an ice cube tray will give them something to put the beads they are working with in. I also like handing each person a washcloth to work on. It will keep beads from rolling on a table. You will also need a calculator, a pen and a small notepad or a receipt pad for calculating each customer's total bill. You may also want business cards but they aren't necessary when you are first getting started.
How to conduct a party. If you don't know everyone you can start by introducing yourself and asking everyone's names. Explain how the party will work. Tell them they will need to pick out a clasp and the beads they will want to use and to put them in their ice cube tray. Then show them how to string a bracelet and how to attach the clasp. Explain that you will be happy to help each person finish attaching the clasp.
The easiest way to charge is to just have a flat fee for each bracelet that each person makes. This will mean you will make more money on some than others. Another way is to charge for each bead. This is easier than it sounds. It will be the best method if you intend to carry both inexpensive beads and semi-precious stones. Using small labels and your home printer make labels for the price of each bead. Attach the labels to the inside partitions of your craft boxes. Then you can tally up the beads on each bracelet by looking at the box. Make sure you charge for the clasp as well. Having the prices right on the box will help each person spend what they want to on their bracelet. I find most people will happily spend $15 to $20 per bracelet.
Types of parties. When you start out just invite friends and family members over to your house for snacks and jewelry making. It is a good idea to offer incentives for them to "host" their own party. It can be as simple as offering them a free bracelet if they invite their friends and family members over to their house for a jewelry party.
Birthday parties for little girls can be really fun. The best way to do this is to charge a set price for each guest. Have the mother hosting the party pay you up front for each girl so you know how many to plan on. Bring only the beads you want to use for the party. Purple, pink and white beads are really popular, but you will want a variety of other colors as well. Ask each girl to pick out their beads and help them make their bracelet the right size. To make it special and to get more parties finish each bracelet and put it in a little organza drawstring bag and slip in a business card. The girls will go home and tell their mothers they want to make jewelry at their own birthday party. Mothers like this idea because it doubles as an activity and a party favor.
Traditionally a bride will take her bridesmaids out to lunch and buy them a small gift. Having a jewelry party is a fun spin on this tradition. The bride invites her bridesmaids over and they all make a coordinating bracelet or necklace to wear at the wedding. The bride picks the colors so you can have kits made ahead of time for each person. Charms are a fun addition. Don't forget to ask the bride to include mothers and flower girls. They will all like the idea of matching jewelry and it is something they will wear again.
There are many other types of parties you can do including mother/daughter parties and Girl Scout activities.
The most important thing is to make sure your parties are relaxing and fun. Help each person with their project so they don't become frustrated. When they finish each piece of jewelry compliment them on their creativity and their accomplishment.
Making Money. Just like starting any business you will need to make an upfront investment. If you already make jewelry as a hobby you will have most of the hardware. The beads will be your main investment. You will want several different types of beads for people to choose from. In the beginning you can start small and add to your inventory as you start making money. You will get a feel for what beads and what colors are popular and what style of clasps get chosen most. I have found that offering too many different beads can be overwhelming. While you want to appeal to everyone's tastes you don't need to have hundreds of beads in each color. Make sure you have one or two options of beads in each color, red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple, pink, black, and white. You will also want several different type of silver spacer bead. Charms sell well but you can add those gradually. It is also a good idea as you get going to have Swarovski Crystal beads available to represent each birthstone. Make a chart for these or just label them right in their boxes with the month. You may also want to carry small jewelry gift boxes and bags. Sell these separately and encourage everyone to make an extra bracelet for a gift.
You can buy your beads from wholesale places online, however, some require you to spend a certain amount or order in bulk quantities. This will be fine when you start doing many parties. In the beginning check what your local craft stores have in stock. Another good resource is Art Beads. They have a very good website and free shipping no matter how small your order is.
Mark up your beads so that the average bracelet will cost about $15. Depending on how much your beads cost you the profit will be about $10 for each bracelet. It seems that most customers will make about two or three bracelets per party.
Marketing. Once you do a few parties you will find it easy to schedule more. Ask each guest if they want to have their own party at their house with their friends. Word of mouth is a great way to get business. There are creative ways to advertise your business as well. Hang flyers at local dance studios or other places that moms and little girls frequent. Ask schools if you can add flyers to the other notices their students take home. You may decide in the future you are ready to spend more money on advertising. Bridal shows and local bridal magazines are a great place to advertise.
The most important thing is to have fun and make sure your customers do as well. Good luck!
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